Let’s face it; I haven’t written anything here for awhile. I have a good excuse for that, and I want to explain. After 17 years of disappointment and sadness, my husband and I finally became parents! On September 4, 2010 we met our beautiful baby girl, Rosina. She was born in Philadelphia in August to a wonderful young woman who wanted her to have everything she couldn’t give her and so she and her boyfriend chose us to be her parents! We are absolutely thrilled with her and stand in constant awe of her birthparents who, in spite of loving her more than life itself (and because of it, no doubt), and in spite of the fact that they would love to have raised her themselves, made an adoption plan for her so that she could have the life they wanted her to have, instead of the life they could currently give her. We aren’t rich but we have so much: our lives are settled and secure, we belong to a close-knit community of supportive family and friends, and most importantly, we are emotionally ready to be parents. It is an open adoption, which is better for all concerned in my opinion, so we will be able to keep in touch with her birth parents, and to send them proof of Rosina’s happy life. As Rosina grows, she will meet and get to know her birth parents, and will have the opportunity to know where she came from biologically, and to know for sure that her birth parents didn’t “give her away” because they didn’t love her. In fact, they found us for her because they love her so much and how can so much love ever be a bad thing?
I know that this is a wedding music blog, but sometimes one must digress for a moment for something important. I don’t want to turn this into a referendum on adoption, but I did want to share a little of our experience. I am still working at my wedding music business full-time, but since my office is in our house, Rosina comes with me to work and spends her day alternately playing with me and her dog (a beautiful blue Great Dane named Luna, who we rescued last summer), and playing by herself, either in her swing or on the floor safely ensconced in her brand new play yard, both within inches of my desk. Any time I get too intense, she giggles behind me and reminds me of what is truly important and there’s nothing better than that!!!
Next entry, I will get back to the business of helping you plan the perfect wedding, but for now I wanted to share something a bit more personal. Having Rosina has helped me find new joy in a lot of things, especially in my work, that in some small way helps to create new families for others. May you all find the joy in your marriage and life that I have found with my “Prince Charming” John and my beautiful princess Rosina.